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<\/a>We hear the phrase “You are your only competition” all the time, but how many people really do this? I would say in almost every area of my life, this is true for me.\u00a0 I compete with only myself in my career.\u00a0 I hold myself to a set of expectations and meet them.\u00a0 I push myself and don’t really care what others think about it as long as I’m happy with it.\u00a0 I also do this in my marriage.\u00a0 I don’t have a cookie cutter relationship with roles and regulations like some might expect to see.\u00a0 We break rules all the time.\u00a0 Again, our relationship works for us and I could care less what people think.\u00a0 BUT I do struggle with this when it comes to my image.<\/p>\nI could have written this whole post like, I don’t care what people think when they look at me and I’m my only competition.\u00a0 But that’s not really how I feel.\u00a0 I still compare myself to other women all the time.\u00a0 I still wonder what I look like to other women and men.\u00a0 But I do think the lens that I look through is different now.\u00a0 When I used to see a thin girl, I would get jealous mad.\u00a0 I was mostly mad at myself and the choices I had made.\u00a0 Now when I see one, I know what work they have put in.\u00a0 There are women out there that never think about food or fitness but this is RARE.\u00a0 I know the difference in the physique of someone who works out and who doesn’t.\u00a0 Now, sometimes I’m still jealous when I see them but I’m jealous because it’s something I want to do too!<\/p>\n
I would even say that 15% of women have been dropped off my radar.\u00a0 These 15% are too thin, unhealthy and unattractive.\u00a0 I don’t want to be a size 2 because I don’t think it’s attractive and the hubby agrees. Then there’s the 20% that I think I’m in now: thin, active, muscular.\u00a0 Of course there are then heavy, overweight, obese and morbidly obese women still too.\u00a0 When I see these women, I’m comparing them to my old self and wishing I could do something to help them.\u00a0 I wish I had a t-shirt that said “ASK ME HOW TO LOSE WEIGHT, BECAUSE YOU NEED TO!” and that I wouldn’t have things thrown at me for wearing it.<\/p>\n
So basically……….I’m saying it’s ok to judge but these women aren’t your competition.\u00a0 The real competition is the battle you are fighting inside but look at other bodies.\u00a0 Which one looks like yours? Which one do you want to look like? Which ones don’t you want to look like?\u00a0 Pick one and go for it!<\/p>\n
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I constantly compare myself to other people.\u00a0 Even when I was at my heaviest, I would look for other girls that I thought were my size or larger just to see what I looked like.\u00a0 I continue to do this now.\u00a0 I think all women are constantly looking at others and ‘sizing’ themselves up. We … <\/p>\n